曾经听到过这样一句话：智商决定你走多高，情商决定你走多远。
Once heard such a sentence: IQ decides how high you go, EQ decides how far you go.
深以为然。在合适的场合说合适的话，做合适的事，不仅是一个人情商极高的表现，也能赢得身边人的信任和倚重，运气不断，走得更远。情商高的人，一般都能做到以下三点。
I think so. Saying the right words and doing the right things on the right occasions is not only a performance of a person with a high EQ, but also a way to win the trust and reliance of people around him. With constant luck, he can go further. Emotionally intelligent people generally do the following three things.
不在他人面前抱怨曾在微博上看到一个这样的视频：综艺节目《亲爱的请放松》里，张大大采访杨幂时这样问她：
I once saw a video like this on Weibo: in the variety show Dear Please Relax, Zhang Dada asked Yang Mi this question when interviewing her:“
我发长篇朋友圈，然后你发给我一个问号。我就想你怎么用一个问号来形容我的奋斗，我这一两个月来的辛苦什么什么的……”
I post long moments, and then you send me a question mark. I just want you to use a question mark to describe my struggle, my last month or two hard things..."
杨幂回答说：“我能回你个问号，说明我还把你这段文字读完了呢！”
Yang Mi replied: "I can answer you a question mark, that I still read you this paragraph of text!"
张大大很不解，问道：“你是不是不太擅长讲‘你真的辛苦了’这种话。”
Zhang Dada was puzzled and asked, "Are you not very good at saying "you really worked hard"?"
杨幂却用手指着窗外的车水马龙：“你往下去看一看，每一个人都很辛苦。你觉得现在外面送外卖的人不辛苦吗……他们今天蹲在这里不辛苦吗（指着工作人员）？所以，你凭什么让别人了解你的辛苦！”
Yang Mi is pointing to the heavy traffic outside the window: "You go down to have a look, everyone is very hard. Don"t you think it"s hard for delivery people nowadays... Aren"t they having a hard time squatting here today (pointing to the staff)? So, why do you let others know your hard work!"
是啊，这个世界比我们辛苦的人比比皆是，我们有什么资格在这里大声抱怨？Yes, the world is more than our hard people everywhere, we have what qualification here loudly complain?
如果我们每个人都活得像祥林嫂一样，不断地向别人倒取苦水换取同情和安慰，那么下次的交谈，只会更加恶劣。
If each of us lives a life of constantly pouring bitterness into others for sympathy and comfort, the next time we have a conversation, it will only be worse.
高情商的人在面对事情时永远积极乐观，因为他们知道嘴上抱怨解决不了任何问题。与其抱怨，不如积极向上，像太阳一样，给他人带来温暖和快乐。
Emotionally intelligent people are always positive about things because they know that complaining won"t solve anything. Instead of complaining, be positive and, like the sun, bring warmth and joy to others.
善于聆听他人说话
Be a good listener
古希腊先哲苏格拉底说：上天赐人以两耳两目，但只有一口，欲使其多闻多见而少言。寥寥数语，就写出了倾听的重要性。
The ancient Greek philosopher Socrates said: God gave people with two ears and two eyes, but only one mouth, to make it hear more, see more and speak less. In just a few words, I"ve written the importance of listening.
在美国一档节目里，著名主持人林克莱特采访一名小朋友，问他长大想成为一个怎样的人。
In an American show, the famous host Linklater interviewed a child and asked him what he wanted to be when he grew up.
小朋友回答：我要当飞机驾驶员。林克莱特接着问：“如果有一天你的飞机飞到太平洋上空，所有的引擎都熄灭了，你会怎么办？”
The child answer: I want to be an airplane pilot. Linklater then asked, "What would you do if one day your plane flew over the Pacific Ocean and all the engines went out?"
小朋友想了想说：“我先告诉飞机上的人，绑好安全带，然后挂上我的降落伞，我先跳下去。”
The child thought for a moment and said: "I tell the people on the plane, tie the safety belt, and then hang up my parachute, I jump down first."
现场的观众笑得东倒西歪，可能已经认为男孩是一个贪生怕死的人。林克莱特接着问孩子：“为什么要这样做呢？”小朋友回答：“我要去拿燃料，我还要回来！我还会回来的！”
The audience was convulsed with laughter, probably thinking the boy was a daredevil. Linklater then asked the child, "Why do you do that?" The child replied, "I"m going to get the fuel, and I"m coming back! I"ll be back!"
从这个采访中，我们不难看出林克莱特的情商之高，他善于聆听他人说话，给予他人足够的尊重。From this interview, we can see that Linklater has a high EQ. He is good at listening to others and gives them enough respect.
也正是因为如此，使得小朋友免遭误解和嘲笑。不得不说，认真倾听能够真实的了解他人，增加沟通效力，使他人感到被尊重和欣赏。而这时，别人必将以热情和感激来回报你的真诚。
It is because of this that the children are free from misunderstanding and ridicule. It has to be said that careful listening can truly understand the other person, increase the effectiveness of communication, and make the other person feel respected and appreciated. Your sincerity will be reciprocated with enthusiasm and gratitude.懂得如何赞美他人语言的力量，远比沉默的认同强上百倍。在我们与同事，朋友，家人相处时，所说的每一句赞美的话，或许都能成为他人向前的动力。
Words are a hundred times more powerful than silent recognition. Every word of praise we utter in our interactions with colleagues, friends, and family can be a motivator.
情商高的人很会赞美别人，懂得从身边的小细节入手。我的朋友曾给我讲过发生在她身上的故事：她的同事小李是一个慢吞吞的人，每次工作，还是聚餐，总是最后一个。
Emotionally intelligent people are great at complimenting others, focusing on the little things around them. My friend once told me a story about what happened to her: her colleague Xiao Li is a slow walker. Every time she works or has a dinner party, she is always the last one.
因此很多人都说小李是一个“拖后腿”的人。有一次，朋友和小李一起合作一个项目，小李的策划案总是要拖到最后再给她。为此，朋友觉得小李似乎在故意的为难她。但是周围的其他同事都安慰说，小李一直都是如此，不要放在心上。
Therefore, many people say that Xiao Li is a "hindrant" person. Once, when my friend and Xiao Li were working on a project together, she always had to give her the plan at the last minute. To this end, the friend felt that Xiao Li seemed to deliberately embarrass her. But the other colleagues around comforted that Xiao Li has always been like this, do not take it to heart.
再一次小李给朋友交换策划案的时候，朋友随口说了一句：“你的策划案做的很完美，但就是时间有点长。”小李一脸惊讶的看着她，说了一句谢谢。Once again, when Xiao Li was exchanging plans with his friend, his friend casually said, "Your plan is perfect, but it takes a little long time." Xiao Li looked at her with surprise and said a thank you.
等到下一次交策划案的时候，小李竟然提前交了上来，而且内容做的也很棒。
Wait until the next time to hand in the planning case, xiao li actually handed in ahead of time, and the content is also very good.
那次项目结束她们聚餐时，小李偷偷跟朋友说：
When they had dinner at the end of the project, Xiao Li whispered to a friend:
“我一直觉得我是一个很失败的人，但是你夸我策划案做的完美，这让我感受到你对我的鼓励，我想着以后我也许可以再努力做好一些。”"I always thought I was a failure, but you praised me for my perfect planning, which made me feel encouraged by you, and I thought I might try to do better in the future."在职场中给人一些简简单单的关注和认可，传递给他人自己真诚的一份善意和赞美，也许可以得到意想不到的收获。Some simple attention and recognition in the workplace, to convey their sincere kindness and praise to others, may be unexpected harvest.
但是有时不能仅仅是口头的赞美，我们需要表达自己的真诚，夸奖也要适度，不然容易适得其反。
But sometimes it can"t just be verbal praise, we need to express our sincerity, and praise should be moderate, otherwise it will easily backfire.
一个高情商的人，知道如何把握分寸的与他人相处，能够找到最舒适的交往方式。可谓是，方圆做人，八面玲珑；圆满做事，事事顺心。
A person with high EQ knows how to get along with others in a proper way and is able to find the most comfortable way to communicate. It can be said that, Fangyuan life, exquisitely; He that does things well does everything well.
希望我们都能做一个高情商的人，怀揣着善良与希望对待他人。
I hope we can all be emotionally intelligent people who treat others with kindness and hope.